For all you single ladies, it’s that awful time of year again when you can’t even get past the pink boxed m&m’s while walking to the wine aisle at the grocery store. Who knew those little pieces of knock off chocolate could cause so many violent and angry thoughts?

For all you “hook up” ladies, it’s that time when you try to determine if your hook up is a little more than that. Will he ignore you or will he shower you with presents?

For all you relationship girls, it’s that time when you try to figure out who your boyfriend actually is. Is he one that buys candy? buys roses? takes you out? movies (the vow, please)? or just nothing at all?

Here’s the reality of the situation:  valentines day should be more about loving one another than giving gifts of chocolate or roses. It shouldn’t be about what guy wants you more based on their gifts. It shouldn’t be about what girl is loved more based on the number of roses she gets.

Quite honestly, it’s all a bunch of CRAP. Like I said, I’m in a relationship. My boyfriend is great and by far the greatest friend I’ve ever had. He knows that I think Vday is pathetic mostly because you should do nice things for each other every day! Gifts are nice, chocolate is great, and wine is better but if thats what it takes to get a girls attention, who the heck would want that? I for one wouldn’t want a girl that required a fancy dinner to really be thankful for me. What if in order to get guys affection we had to cut the grass or pretend to enjoy watching golf on tv (boring)? I’m exhausted just thinking about it. 

Girls, if a guy loves you he will show you with his actions and words. No guy worth having will ever try to “buy you” because no matter how you feel, you are priceless! You can’t be bought. I like Tiffany’s and you can bet I’d be ecstatic if my boyfriend bought me a cute charm for my bracelet. But HELLO, we’re in college. If you honestly expect gifts like that you are a shallow woman! Be grateful that you (if you’re in college) are in a time where you don’t have to buy expensive presents or any presents at all to have a good relationship. Spending time is the greatest gift of all! If he’s “the One” he will show you. If you’re determining if he’s the one on Vday, he won’t pass and neither will any other guy. Love isn’t based on gifts, it’s based on affection. Me and my boyfriend plan on making dinner for each other. I don’t want roses or a card or chocolate. I just want him and I just want him to feel loved. 

If you’re single, I know it must be a crappy day. One of those days where you drink alone in your bedroom and stare at pictures of you ex’s or cute couples on facebook all day. There’s someone for you! This morning I bought myself a box of chocolate for my room mate. She’s not single but she’s been having a rough time lately. It totally made her day and it made my week. Vday isn’t just about love for a spouse, it’s just about love. If you can show someone you truly love them, you will feel just as much happiness as the “cute couples” on facebook who are probably watching a God awful college basketball game and falling asleep at ten. 

To all the girls who are playing a bunch of guys and waiting to see who gives you the most, God bless your soul. You can’t win that way and you will end up alone. There’s NOTHING wrong with being alone on valentines day! Just show someone you love them and I can guarantee you it’ll be a good day. 

Valentines day is about showing someone you love them. It doesn’t matter if you give candy to your room mate, make dinner with your boyfriend, or calling your mom just to tell her you love her! Spread your love, you have so much to give!

Let LOVE day inspire you to LOVE deeper every single day! 

PS: If you see a girl post a picture of the flowers her bf bought her on facebook, ignore it. Obviously she’s not used to the attention so just let her soak it up. Don’t be one of these girls, celebrate with the person who gave them to you. The whole world doesn’t need to know. Everyone’s loved beyond their belief, you aren’t loved more because you got a couple of cheap roses. Happy VDAY Y’ALL