For all you single ladies, it’s that awful time of year again when you can’t even get past the pink boxed m&m’s while walking to the wine aisle at the grocery store. Who knew those little pieces of knock off chocolate could cause so many violent and angry thoughts?
For all you “hook up” ladies, it’s that time when you try to determine if your hook up is a little more than that. Will he ignore you or will he shower you with presents?
For all you relationship girls, it’s that time when you try to figure out who your boyfriend actually is. Is he one that buys candy? buys roses? takes you out? movies (the vow, please)? or just nothing at all?
Here’s the reality of the situation: valentines day should be more about loving one another than giving gifts of chocolate or roses. It shouldn’t be about what guy wants you more based on their gifts. It shouldn’t be about what girl is loved more based on the number of roses she gets.
Quite honestly, it’s all a bunch of CRAP. Like I said, I’m in a relationship. My boyfriend is great and by far the greatest friend I’ve ever had. He knows that I think Vday is pathetic mostly because you should do nice things for each other every day! Gifts are nice, chocolate is great, and wine is better but if thats what it takes to get a girls attention, who the heck would want that? I for one wouldn’t want a girl that required a fancy dinner to really be thankful for me. What if in order to get guys affection we had to cut the grass or pretend to enjoy watching golf on tv (boring)? I’m exhausted just thinking about it.
Girls, if a guy loves you he will show you with his actions and words. No guy worth having will ever try to “buy you” because no matter how you feel, you are priceless! You can’t be bought. I like Tiffany’s and you can bet I’d be ecstatic if my boyfriend bought me a cute charm for my bracelet. But HELLO, we’re in college. If you honestly expect gifts like that you are a shallow woman! Be grateful that you (if you’re in college) are in a time where you don’t have to buy expensive presents or any presents at all to have a good relationship. Spending time is the greatest gift of all! If he’s “the One” he will show you. If you’re determining if he’s the one on Vday, he won’t pass and neither will any other guy. Love isn’t based on gifts, it’s based on affection. Me and my boyfriend plan on making dinner for each other. I don’t want roses or a card or chocolate. I just want him and I just want him to feel loved.
If you’re single, I know it must be a crappy day. One of those days where you drink alone in your bedroom and stare at pictures of you ex’s or cute couples on facebook all day. There’s someone for you! This morning I bought myself a box of chocolate for my room mate. She’s not single but she’s been having a rough time lately. It totally made her day and it made my week. Vday isn’t just about love for a spouse, it’s just about love. If you can show someone you truly love them, you will feel just as much happiness as the “cute couples” on facebook who are probably watching a God awful college basketball game and falling asleep at ten.
To all the girls who are playing a bunch of guys and waiting to see who gives you the most, God bless your soul. You can’t win that way and you will end up alone. There’s NOTHING wrong with being alone on valentines day! Just show someone you love them and I can guarantee you it’ll be a good day.
Valentines day is about showing someone you love them. It doesn’t matter if you give candy to your room mate, make dinner with your boyfriend, or calling your mom just to tell her you love her! Spread your love, you have so much to give!
Let LOVE day inspire you to LOVE deeper every single day!
PS: If you see a girl post a picture of the flowers her bf bought her on facebook, ignore it. Obviously she’s not used to the attention so just let her soak it up. Don’t be one of these girls, celebrate with the person who gave them to you. The whole world doesn’t need to know. Everyone’s loved beyond their belief, you aren’t loved more because you got a couple of cheap roses. Happy VDAY Y’ALL
Just had one of “those days”. Bombed a math test and some random girl I hardly know, and have never done anything to, decides to try to tell me I’m stupid.
I’m a major advocate for ESPN or just any topic involving sports. It’s safe to say I know my stuff and can argue with the best. I’m also not “skanky” and I’ve never hooked up with anyone. However, if you do, that’s fine. I’m not against it, I just don’t do it.
This girl is from NY (which I have no prob with but it seems to put out the most awful women) and she’s dating my boyfriends room mate. To begin our short history, she kissed my boyfriend on the cheek at a party. No, it wasn’t one of those “we’ve been friends forever and we’re really close” thing. It was one of those “I’ve been trying to hook up with him forever and you’re getting in my way” things. I know her history so I kind of know how skanky she actually is so I clearly didn’t trust her from the get go. Anyways, we’ve had weird twitter confrontations and she always makes a smart comment when I walk in the room.
I’m respectful and I’m polite to everyone I meet, but this girl is crossing the line. She thinks she’s so smart and so hot. She’s not. Instead of responding on twitter like an immature brat, I’m trying to find her phone number because I’ve respected her. I know so many awful things that could ruin her life right now and I wouldn’t even say them because my parents raised me better than that. I want to talk to her over the phone because I still respect her as well as myself. I’d rather dispute our disagreement instead of tweeting about it, but I guess that’s because I have class.
I know I preached that we shouldn’t judge and we should try to end our bad cycles, hints why I’m writing it and not chewing her out! So here’s to you, mean girl, I hope you sleep well tonight knowing that you are immature, rude, disrespectful, and NOT pretty at all.
Thankfully I forgive you and I’m going to hang out with my wonderful boyfriend while yours cheats on you. No one likes a mean girl.
It makes me so excited! I only have one class today and that’s World Lit so you could say this has been an amazing start to a VERY easy day.
My whole life I’ve been rummaging through ideas of what the heck I’m going to do with myself. I’ve gone from Architect to Child Psychiatrist to Lawyer to Journalist in a matter of months. This depressing economy is constantly making me second guess every decision I’m making! I’M EXHAUSTED, and I’m sure most of you can relate. I think it doesn’t even matter what economic class you’re in, every girl is scared to death of the future because none of us know what exactly the future holds!
For some of us poor girls, the anxiety of “wasting money” and not getting every penny out of our money is enough to make us just want to drop out!
For the rich girls, stress of making your parents mad that you are wasting “their money” is enough to make you second guess your thursday nights.
For the southern girls, wasting money, being in debt AND not finding a husband is a belle’s worst nightmare.
Last night me and my boyfriend were discussing our futures. He’s a PGM Business Management major. Basically, he will be managing a golf course (any belle’s dream guy). However, I am the most indecisive person anyone will ever meet. I’m in between Pre-Law and Journalism. As different as those two jobs may seem, they really aren’t. They both require a lot of reading and writing. I can handle law school and everything that goes with it but I just don’t know if I can handle pushing my life back as well as increasing my debt! Also, I have a solid rule of no children after 35. My body won’t recover (y’all can understand, I’m sure).
With that said, I hate the economy. It’s going to make me old, unmarried, without children, angry, in debt, and stressed! NO ONE WANTS TO BE STRESSED.
We’re in college. We’re suppose to be having the time of our lives but we’re so scared in making a wrong move that we end up making a thousand. We end up guzzling wine in our bedrooms after we bomb that math test (Again, y’all can understand). We end up being total messes during finals week, shoved up in the library like its Starbucks. We end up dreading classes because it’s no longer about what we’re learning, it’s just getting through it all.
And here’s where my faith comes in. “If God leads you to it, he will get you through it.” I guess we all pull our faith out of our butts and make things happen. We’ve all got to pass our classes and keep moving forward. But when you start to have that day when you get overwhelmed by all the stress of the future, try thinking about the past. In your past could you have predicted yourself being in the exact spot you are now? My guess is no but you got there somehow.
Have FAITH in your future, your past, your present, and most importantly yourselves! You are the only person who can make YOUR life happen! Don’t stress. Stay calm and push on.
College, what’s the point?
So, it seems like most college students don’t really know the answer to why they are even in college. Most would answer “for a good education”. Notice I said “most” because most of us have been trained to respond in that manner.
Let’s throw out all the proper terms, expected responses, and be honest. We’re here to make connections.
Is it me or does that seem like a really difficult task? WHY?
I’m not gonna sugar coat this or butter y’all up.:
Jealousy and Insecurities.
You can’t make a single connection if you are always judging, classifying and hating each other (Remember this because it’ll come into play later).
Here’s even less sugar coating: I judge. I classify. Yes, on certain occasions, I hate girls. I’m a woman. I’m a human being. I also have a great life, a very blessed life. I’m highly unworthy of all of it but here’s a no brainer: I’m insecure. THERE! Someone actually admitted it. Don’t even try to pretend you aren’t because there honestly isn’t a single person in this world who isn’t insecure. You judge too. You classify as well. Everyone knows it.
Now that all the cards are on the table, let’s sort through this.
At the end of the day, no one truly cares how drunk you got at last night’s kegger. No one cares if Chelsea and Samantha’s Ex hooked up at last weeks formal. Let’s be honest, no one cares about any of the crap we post on facebook, twitter, tumblr or any other means of social networking that you use (Don’t hate me, I do it too. Guilty). So WHY do we post it? Because we all want to judge and shockingly enough, we all want to BE judged. Here’s a list of examples on how we are ruining ourselves:
4.So it’s your “dress up” day for your sorority. You call your bestie and try to coordinate outfits. On your walk to class in your 4 inch heels you notice a GDI in sweats and Uggs. You glance at your sister and you both giggle over how gross she looks. You probably think “Oh my God, what is that girl wearing?! EWWWW I’m going to get ugly just being near her. I’d never dress like that. I’m wayy to gorgeous to ever look like that.” To other people it seems like “She must really be cocky (that’s not the same as confident) and self absorbed. She’s no better than anyone else. Who cares if she’s in a sorority?” I have no issue with sororities and I think most have a good outlook on charities and what not. Here’s a heads up for all you ADPi’s, Tri Deltas, Alpha Xi’s, ZTA’s etc…, you call anyone not in a sorority a GDI. Those same girls call you sororistutes. I’m sure you think it’s a compliment, it’s not. That girl in sweats looks a lot better than you did last night hung over a toilet with your hair soaked in puke (no judgement, we’ve all been there). Letters don’t make you classy, your attitude does!
Those are just examples and none of them are personal stories. Those are just situations I see on a daily basis!
I’m not Jesus. I know you are all thinking “this girl is judging us on judging other people who judge us anyways” and you are right. I’m not judging you. I’m understanding you. I’ve been that girl that looks at other girls and thinks “what the hell is she wearing?” but I’ve also been the girl that gets bad looks because I’m not in a sorority. We’ve all been in each other shoes at least once so why act like we haven’t?
But you are thinking there is no way for anyone to change. We’re all in this never ending cycle. Again, genius, we are. It’s almost impossible to stop this awful cycle but guess what? YOU can stop your own cycle! My best tip: KEEP YOUR MOUTH SHUT. Like momma says, if you don’t have anything nice to say then just don’t say it! Instead of tweeting it, write it as a draft. It’s okay to be angry but it’s not okay to hate. Instead of screeching when you see a GDI, pretend you don’t even see them. They probably don’t see you anyways. To the red head in the front of your class, maybe you should start sitting up front. I bet she’d help with your homework so you don’t fail. If you want all your frienemies to see the hot fratty guy, try developing a friendship with him. Don’t give him the goods because that’ll be the only time you get a picture with him! Be the girl he loves and opens up to.
Here’s a cliche, love yourself. Try to ignore those negative thoughts. You don’t have to take your problems out on other people. You have been or will be in their position. You can’t be successful in life without connections. You can’t have connections if you are judging and being narrow minded. Absorb each other and learn from each other!!